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How to stay safe during a divorce from an abusive spouse

On Behalf of | Apr 24, 2024 | Divorce |

Leaving an abusive relationship is a courageous step. If you are ending a marriage with an abusive spouse, it is important to prioritize your safety.

As you begin the process of divorce, there are steps you can take to protect yourself during this difficult time.

Planning for safety

Before you file for divorce, consider the safety of you and your children, if you have any. Also, think about where you will stay if you need to leave your home. Do you have friends or family members who can offer temporary housing? If not, then local shelters can provide a safe haven.

Documenting abuse

Keeping a record of the abuse is important. If there are any physical injuries, take pictures and document the date and time. Save voicemails, emails or text messages that contain threats or abusive language. This documentation can be helpful if you need to file for a restraining order or if the abuse continues after the divorce.

Telling people you trust

Do not be afraid to confide in trusted friends, family members or a therapist about the abuse. Having a support system in place can help you feel less alone and more empowered to make decisions about your safety.

Setting boundaries

During the divorce process, it might be necessary to limit contact with your spouse. This may involve communicating only through emails or text messages. Having a trusted friend or family member present during meetings is also an option.

Prioritizing your wellbeing

Taking care of yourself emotionally and physically is important. Make time for activities you enjoy, even if it is just for a short while each day. Eating healthy meals, getting enough sleep and exercising can also help you manage stress and stay strong.

By prioritizing your safety and planning ahead, you can take control and navigate your divorce with greater peace of mind.