Pennsylvania courts expect the two parents to work together in custody cases. They may even seek to punish the parent that they view as getting in the way of good relations between the two parents. This is why it is crucial to put old grievances aside and work together for the good of the children.
Cooperation is not easy, but it is essential
For many parents, it is easier said than done to preach cooperation. There is plenty of water under the bridge, and it is not for a lawyer to tell you to forgive and forget. That part comes in your own time. As far as the children are concerned, judges do not like conflict in child custody cases. They especially do not like it when parents badmouth the other to the children. That is viewed so seriously that it could even cost a parent custody.
Stay calm at all costs
At the same time, there are a number of positive things that parents can do to impact their custody situation. Taking a deep breath and committing to working with the ex makes that parent look good in the eyes of the court. Perception is everything in a custody case. A judge who is not in your shoes every day may judge your behavior based on hearing certain snippets of your co-parenting relationship. It is important not to give them any opportunity to think negatively of you. All it takes is one bad incident to ruin years of productive co-parenting.
A child custody attorney could give you advice on how to handle dealing with the other parent. They may also assist if you find yourself running into legal issues with the custody agreement. Your attorney may work to protect your parental rights, both through negotiating the custody agreement and helping you with modifications as necessary.