So you want to adopt a child? The world needs more people who are willing to and fully prepared to do so. Adoption is a life-changing decision for you, the child and everyone else in your family, so take time to consider how life will change for everyone involved.
These are some things to be aware of if you are considering adoption:
- Kids cost a lot of money: Have you ever listened to a parent reminisce about all the things they could have done, all the places they could have traveled if they were still childless. Most would agree their kids are worth every penny, but you need to ensure you budget for an increased family. Every time you go to a restaurant, go on holiday or go to the store, your costs will be more than before — and the expenses tend to grow with the child.
- Kids take time: Think about your friends and how their social life changed once they had kids. If you invite them to the bar, they have to see if they can get a baby sitter, if you ask them to the game, they say no because their kid has football practice. If you adopt a child, you will have less time to do the things you usually do. You will no longer have the flexibility to stay late at work, pop out for drinks or book a last-minute weekend away.
- Kids have minds of their own: Kids and parents, whether related biologically or through adoption, do not always get along, and there will be arguments. Years from now, that angelic-faced cutie in front of you today may one day be shouting at you because you won’t let her to a party. Be prepared for the fact that kids grow up into independent beings with their own needs and desires.
You must be honest with yourself when considering adoption. Things will be difficult at times, just as they are for any parent. If you are prepared to accept the hard times with the good, seek legal help to understand more about the Pennsylvania adoption process.