Divorce is challenging, but when abuse is involved, it becomes even more complex. Your primary concern is the safety and well-being of your children.
Below are suggestions on how you might protect your kids during and after divorce from an abusive spouse.
Prioritizing safety
Your children’s safety should be your top priority. Consider these steps:
- Document any instances of abuse, including dates, times and details.
- Inform your lawyer about the abuse so they can advocate for appropriate custody arrangements.
- Create a safety plan with your children, including safe places and people to contact in emergencies.
- Consider seeking a restraining order if you feel it might be necessary for your family’s protection.
You may want to consult an attorney for advice tailored to your specific situation.
Supporting your children emotionally
Divorce and abuse could be traumatic for children. Below are ways you might help them cope:
- Maintain open communication with them, encouraging them to express their feelings.
- Reassure them that the abuse and divorce are not their fault.
- Consider professional counseling for your children to help them process their emotions.
- Maintain as much stability and routine in their lives as possible.
It is important to remember that healing takes time, and each child may react differently.
Moving forward
As you navigate life after divorce, consider keeping these points in mind:
- Continue to prioritize your children’s safety and well-being.
- Be cautious about introducing new partners to your children too quickly.
- Consider co-parenting counseling if it is safe and appropriate.
- Stay vigilant about any signs of ongoing abuse or manipulation through the children.
Protecting your children is an ongoing process. You may want to seek help from professionals, support groups, or trusted friends and family members. There are resources available to support you and your children as you build a safer, healthier future together.