If your ex-spouse is a narcissist, parenting post-divorce may seem like an impossible task. However, unless your home life was abusive, it is likely that you and your ex will co-parent.
Co-parenting is generally in the best interest of your child, who should be the main focus in this situation. Fortunately, there are ways to manage parenting with a narcissist. According to Healthline, two good tips are to involve a guardian ad litem, and to have a legal parenting plan.
What is a guardian ad litem?
A guardian ad litem is a “guardian” that the courts appoint. In some cases the court may mandate involving a guardian ad litem in your post-divorce parenting situation; in others, you can request that the court appoint one.
The purpose of a guardian ad litem is to have a neutral outside opinion on your post-divorce parenting. The guardian will get to know your child and your situation, and can make suggestions to the court based on their opinions. This can help prevent your narcissistic ex from manipulating the situation.
What is a legal parenting plan?
It can cost more to have a legal parenting plan, but this is also a way to prevent your ex from manipulating everything. A legal parenting plan involves a professional signing off on the parenting plan and having all details in writing. If your ex tries to deviate from the plan, you will be able to get the law involved.
Parenting after divorce with a narcissist is difficult. However, by having the appropriate legal safeguards in place, you can save your sanity and provide the best for your child.