Co-parenting can be challenging, but it can also be a positive experience if you put aside hurt feelings and the desire to be the favored parent.
If you focus on the well-being of your children instead of trying to outdo your ex, you can create an environment where your children can thrive.
Stick to the schedule
Whether you can amicably create a schedule with your ex or need the court to establish a custody schedule, follow the schedule at all times. Show up when expected for every custody exchange so your children know they can count on you to be there.
Keep children out of arguments
If you have a difficult relationship with your ex, keep your children out of it. Never use your children as the messenger with your ex when there is negativity involved. Do not force your children to feel like they need to take sides or defend one of you to the other.
Keep your ex in the loop
When big moments occur during your time with your children, share them with your ex. Whether that means inviting them to share in those moments in person or sending photos or videos of exciting events, keep your ex involved in the important moments of your children’s lives.
When your children return to your home after time with their other parent, encourage them to share something they enjoyed about their time away. Make sure your children feel comfortable talking positively about their other parent without fearing a negative reaction from you. Open communication is an important part of parent-child relationships.