Many people ask for a divorce and later reveal that they had been thinking about it for a long time — months or even years — without doing anything. One reason is just that it seems intimidating. They keep hoping the marriage will improve so they won’t have to get divorced at all.

You don’t have to live like this. You shouldn’t feel intimidated by divorce.

For one thing, you have to consider your current situation and contrast it with the divorce process. Say you have an emotionally abusive partner, and that’s why you want the divorce. Getting the legal process started may feel daunting, but isn’t it more daunting to consider living every day with someone who is emotionally abusive or manipulative?

You may also find that you’re intimidated by the idea of telling people you’re getting divorced. You don’t think society will approve. While this outlook isn’t as predominant as it used to be, it does still exist, and it’s important to remember that you need to do what is right for you, not what society wants you to do.

Divorce is eventually going to be just a blip of time in the span of your life. Any discomfort you feel will be temporary. You can move forward and create the life you want and deserve. Yes, it takes time, but don’t let that time keep you from pursuing it at all.

If you’re thinking about divorce, it is crucial to understand your legal rights. It can help to work with an experienced family law attorney who will can provide valuable guidance and support.