Do you ever feel like you know exactly how your divorce will go and how it will change your life? Maybe it’s something you have been thinking about for some time, and you really think you understand the process. 

If so, that’s great. The more you can know from the beginning, the better it’s going to go when you finally file. Doing your research is crucial, and you are off to an incredible start. 

However, there are things that tend to surprise people about divorce. It’s important to know that it doesn’t always work exactly how you assume it will. Here are a few examples:

  • More people are thinking about divorce than you realize, even if they’ve never mentioned it. One woman said that she started hearing a lot of stories since people would confide in her more once she ended her own marriage. 
  • There are different phases when considering how people deal with it. Feeling emotional is one stage, for instance, but that doesn’t mean your whole post-divorce life will be that way. 
  • Divorce can take a long time. Do not assume that it’s going to be as fast as saying your marriage vows. You may be in this process for months. 
  • You’re going to have to replace possessions. Some of the assets that go to your ex will be things you need, and you’ll have to buy them again. People often do not realize just how much they share. 

As you continue to do your research and consider divorce, make sure you are well aware of the steps you need to take. An experienced advocate can help you.