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3 alternatives to a traditional divorce

On Behalf of | Mar 19, 2020 | Divorce |

When it comes to divorce, you might imagine spouses arguing in a courtroom about assets and child custody. While that is a possibility, it’s not the only way that divorces can go. There are specific alternatives to the traditional divorce method that you may want to consider.

If you’re worried about the divorce dragging in court or looking to keep your divorce as private as possible, one of the following options might work out better for you.


Divorce mediation includes the help of a neutral mediator. Your mediator does not replace your divorce attorney; instead, they act as an unbiased go-between for both spouses. With the help of your mediator, you can review all the critical aspects of divorce: division of assets, child custody, and more.

Mediation is an ideal choice if you and your spouse are quick to argue and need that added presence to keep things on track. Since mediation allows you to talk directly with your spouse to negotiate terms, you generally have more control as the court will not make decisions for you. Mediation is also usually faster and much more private than a litigated divorce.


A collaborative divorce is an ideal choice if you and your spouse want to avoid making a spectacle in court and can come to agreeable terms on your own. With collaboration, you and your spouse – along with your attorneys – will assess each element of the divorce to create a settlement agreement.

The collaborative process may include the assistance of neutral professionals such as financial planners to help you through dividing your assets and ensuring every piece of the puzzle is squared away. Collaborative divorces work best if you and your spouse are open and willing to work together and negotiate until you reach a satisfactory resolution.


When you and your spouse both agree unanimously to the divorce, it’s considered uncontested. This means that you are not fighting about finances, child custody, alimony, or any other factors about the divorce.

Uncontested divorces can save you both time and money as you have already established the terms for your separation. Less time spent arguing over the details means less time in court and less money you will have to spend on a lawyer.

Make an informed decision

Divorce is different for everyone. What worked for your friends or relatives might not work for you. When filing for divorce, you should consider every possible avenue and discuss the alternatives with your spouse. Weigh out your options before committing, as it can be difficult – and costly – to change tactics further down the road.

Whatever you choose, understand that divorce can be emotional and challenging. Finding the right method can make the process just a little bit easier.