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Tips for making divorce easier for your children

| Feb 7, 2020 | Divorce |

As a parent, you are always thinking about the well-being of your children. You want to give them a good, happy life. You want them to feel safe and loved. But in the middle of a divorce, you might feel lost on how to do that.

Since divorce is difficult for everyone involved, it can be useful to consider methods that can help you feel less overwhelmed. The following are some tips that can make the divorce process more bearable for your family.

  • Keep any arguments or legal discussions away from the children. Discuss your problems in private, and don’t let your emotions get the best of you by getting in heated arguments that your children may overhear. Even if you and your partner do not get along, you should be as civil and respectful as possible.
  • Remind children that divorce is not their fault. Children may feel like they’re to blame for what is happening between you and your partner. Reassure them that it is not. Explain the situation in simple terms that your child can understand and remind them that you love them, despite what is going on between you and your ex.
  • Try not to disrupt your child’s usual schedule. Children can excel under familiar schedules that allow them to feel safe and productive. Divorce will likely change your routines, but if you can make those changes more gradual, it can help your kids adjust a little more easily.
  • Don’t dismiss your child’s feelings. Listen to your kids when they tell you what’s upsetting them, especially about the divorce. Take their feelings into consideration when developing parenting plans to ensure their comfort.
  • Make time for yourself. If you’re exhausted from the divorce proceedings, you may not be able to offer the support you want for your kids. Take an hour at the gym, or indulge in a refreshing salon appointment, taking time out of the stressful situation allows you to relax and refocus. Your positive attitude can help your kids stay positive, too.

Divorce can be painful, emotional and stressful. Not everything will go smoothly, and that’s okay. Take it a day at a time, and don’t be afraid to ask for help from friends, family and professionals. Things will get easier, and you will be able to focus on building a new and healthy life for your children.